Are we Preparing our girls to be the CEO or the HOE? Is this generation of girls ready to start the new school year?

As my little cousin prepared herself to leave home for her first year at university, I couldn't help think if she was really ready.  I'm not talking about the classes, she's smart she'll do well.  I'm not talking about the stress, its gets everyone at some point. I'm not talking about laundry or sleeping in.  I'm talking about all the hidden stuff that we don't talk about.  All the stuff that we leave out of the "talks" we have with girls before they leave. We tell them about balancing partying and studying.  We tell them about the "freshman 15" and how to make healthy food choices.  We tell them not to leave their drinks unattended or never walk home alone.  We cover all that stuff.  But as my sweet little cousin left I realized that she might not be ready for some of the other stuff, the hidden dangers that tend to attack girls when they get to university.  I mean lets face it, university especially the first year, is all about hormones and testosterone.  We lump all these boys together (most of them virgins with the sole motivation of getting laid) and their hormones bleed together into this frenzied mating dance.  And what happens when crazed boys clash with the "fairer sex"? They become more sexually aggressive.  Did they all have older brothers who told them that university girls were easy?  Do they think the girls are just as horny and willing as them (no standards needed)? Is there some ancient wisdom being passed down the ranks to these boys that girls, during frosh week, are more susceptible to their come-ons, so they better work your magic quick before the spell wears off?? I don't know the answer.  But my cousin called me with tales of boys trying to remove her shirt during a party and a boy who shoved his hands down her pants......Now, I know my cousin, she's not overtly sexual, she's a tomboy.  So what signal were these boys getting from her that made them think she liked to be fondled by a sweaty stranger, drunk out of his mind,  and stinking of Yeager and redbull??  Why do they think its' ok to make such an aggressive move on a girl.  There should be no question in their mind that such a thing is not alright.  How is it ok to shove your hands down a strange girl's pants??? It scares me to think that boys find this behaviour acceptable.  But they are obviously getting away with it, there must be girls somewhere letting them get away with it.  From what my cousin says there were lots of girls around her enjoying that type of behaviour.  So I was proud my cousin knew enough to say no, but what about the girls who don't or don't feel like they can?  Are we preparing our girls to handle these situations?  It takes a strong sense of self to not follow the crowd.  It also takes a strong sense of self not to let your hormones get you in to situations that would make you feel bad about yourself.  Because girls have hormones too, and desires.  How do we prepare girls to stand up for themselves and not be objectified.  We do not want them to compromise their sense of self worth for the sake of some boy that may or may not be worthy of them.  If all the other girls are letting boys put their hands down their pants, it doesn't mean you have to.  If everyone in your dorm is going to a theme party called "CEOs and Hoes" and you are uncomfortable (or vomit at the mere thought) with the concept, it is ok to voice your opinion and not go.   It is ok to tell your "friends" that any party that pits men (as bosses in suits) against women (as sex objects in skimpy clothes) is tasteless, disgusting and should be forbidden.  In fact we should expect our young girls to stand up to such ridiculous types of social engagement.  I mean we've obviously failed some where along the way if parties like these are popular occurances on college campuses.  CEOs and Hoes, Tight and Bright, Catholic School (that fantasy only works in one direction), Bikers and Babes, Pimps and Hoes: these are all concepts designed to get young girls into tight, slutty outfits so men can ogle them without fear of reprocussions.  Why are all these girls going along with it?  Because it's fun? Ya it is really fun for those boozy boys who would probably never see a naked woman any other way.  And then think about the bigger girls.  The parties aren't designed for them.  Think how awkward they feel in those situations.  And this is why we need to start educating our young women on how to be strong, self-assured, women who do not need validation from men in order to feel good about themselves.  And it needs to start now and needs to start from a very young age.  Let's make sure the next generation of girls don't make the same mistakes.